Every human relationship has a give and take policy associated with it and more often than not there are always a set of conditions which define every relationship. However there is one such relationship, one of the most critical, where there is only giving and no demands, there is only sacrifice and no expectations, there is only affection and no conditions, there is only selflessness and no regrets. This is the relationship between parents and children, wherein the parents are the givers and children the receivers.
My maternal Aunt passed away a few days ago. My cousin was very attached to his mother and though she had turned extremely frail with age and sickness, with her ability to communicate affected, she was still there like a pillar of strength and hope for my cousin and even for the entire family. My aunt was a massively pleasant personality and was love and compassion personified. She was simple to the core and truly angelic. My cousin has gone a bit quiet. The writing was on the wall, but still losing a parent hurts and it is like a slow creeping pain.
Losing my Aunt refreshed memories of the passing away of my father and that slow creeping pain. My parents like all other parents have been just givers with no demands or expectations. They have made all the sacrifices. They have revelled in my success and have been pained by my failures. Therefore the passing away of my father was like a big void getting created, which at that time felt unassailable.
As I got back to the daily routine fairly quickly, days passed by and so layers and layers of time deposited on the void giving an impression that everything had settled and I had reached acceptance of my father’s absence. But it was not to be. I missed his presence when I was down. I missed his reassurance. I missed his calming words. I missed his benevolence and I soon realised that the layers were just layers of time and that the void still existed, probably never to be filled.
I can therefore understand what my cousin would be going through. Taking nothing away from the healing qualities of time, the fact is that the void created by the absence of parents can never be filled and that is precisely what makes them so exclusive a breed, which no matter what, are just irreplaceable.
That slow creeping pain…lingers.
A very Touching incident which reaffirms that the presence of father and mother surrounding us itself creates an outer layer rarely visible by the naked eyes protecting and nurturing the children leading them to Ecstacy.I remember uncle as he used to visit the Officers flat at Nepali koti,Patna. I used to wish him whenever he met me and he would reply with a gentle smile asking me of my wellbeing.A fairly tall gentleman 6″ with specs on was so humble and submissive which was very impressive.I remember one of his speech on occasion of 26 Jan 2012 which was probably one of the best I had ever heard during the Republic day parades at Colonel Gadeock parade ground.Infact he was a fatherly figure to many of us also.Aunty on the other hand was very caring figure.I was lucky to have such divine souls around me which gave me the power and energy to give my best while discharging my duties ,giving me an inspiration for life.In life many come and many go but some leave a deep impression on your mind.Uncle was one of them.May the soul rest in peace .amen .
So true …Nothing can replace the warmth, selfless love and strength one derive while being in company of our parents .Their presence alone can cure so many problems and infuse immense positivity . undoubtedly this void can never be filled ..
Very well written 👏 very touching n emotional..u refreshed my memories too . I can co relate very well n this void is irreplaceable n no one can never ever fill it. May Allah grant the bestest of his blessings to our parents…ameen